How to motivate yourself

By Steve Chandler

1. The first chapter, Get on Your Deathbed, certainly captures the reader's attention. What is your meaning?

This was an experience I had with my great consultant and coach Devers Branden,wife of author Nathaniel Branden, who took me through an exercisewhere I lay on my own imaginary death bed and said goodbye to everyonein my life one at a time. It was powerfully emotional, and it illustrated howshallow and petty life can become when we put everything off till tomorrow. The Samurai call this dying before you go into battle. Death gives us a great surge of life. It is not to be feared.

 

2. People do tend to make their lives chaotic. What price do they pay?

They swirl in the illusion of busyness, when it's really a combination oflaziness and fear. The most productive lives are bold and simple; they are livesin which it is possible to live by one's own highest priorities and not by trying toplease others. Most people waste their lives trying to 'win people over'never realizing that the chaos and misery created by that vain pursuitwill end in the chaos you refer to.

3. What is the master key?

Truth. Truth is on your side, and as the poet Keats said 'Truth is beauty.' Butdysfunctional people are dysfunctional precisely because they lie tothemselves. They tell themselves negative things that just aren't true. I wrote the 17 Lies book...to call people out on that. That book was based on years of listening to my clients lies about how helpless they were in the face of circumstance and other people. There are 17 lies that people tell themselves about how difficult life is, andonce those lies are identified and dismantled, people achieve whatever they choose to achieve.