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Raya74 · Posted: Sat Jun 23, 2007 4:54 am Post subject: ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!

I had the worst day.....the only thing that helped me get through it was knowing that it was the end of the work week. I was excited about this new job- my first real f/t job since graduating this year....but not even a month into it and im already thinking about quitting!! I know this doesn't sound logical to quit something after just starting but by the end of the day I feel overworked, undervalued, and underpaid....Im in an assistant position and I pretty much knew what to anticipate coming into this job and its not that i mind being told what to do as much as the way im being told how to do it.....the woman i am assisting can be very snappy and sometimes plain rude when asking me to do something for her...she's always stressing how everything needs to be done extremly accurately and there's almost no marginal room for errors to occur and thats a lot of pressure for this new girl- so i tend to take longer to do my assigned tasks so that way i make sure there at least being done right- but apparently im not efficient enough and as she told me today- she needs to rev me up to work at 10x the pace im working at now....and for every little assigned task she's going to start giving me a deadline- which is how long she thinks it will take me to complete it!! I don't think I'm cut out for this work because i'd like to think that i deserve better. At the same time i don't wanna be a quitter especially knowing the time and money it will cost them to train someone new and get them prepared for their very busiest time in the fall.....and im not in a financial position currently to be able to take the time to start looking for another job-I am stuck in a rut and don't know what to do- i have a meeting with the assistant director coming up this week and I don't know if i should voice my concerns or just act like everything's ok...i don't want her to think im incompetent or look down on me....the majority of the people I work with are very educated(masters-Phd's) and i really don't wanna burn bridges with them or if i were to leave have everyone talking about it-word spreads quickly in that office!! and anytime someone does leave they make it like a big thing....i feel the longer i stay the more im losing a sense of who i am-should i just suck it up and try harder or cut my losses now???????????

I feel like i have no one to talk to about this....no one understands and im hoping someone who reads this can offer me some much much needed advice....it would be greatly appreciated.

Randy · Posted: Sat Jun 23, 2007 4:58 pm Post subject: Re: ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!

quote="Raya74"

I know this doesn't sound logical....

We've not Vulcans. Humans like to boast of logic and reason but unless and until they resolve the conflict between what they "think" and what they "feel," logic is, in the words of Stone Sour, "...like a whole other world where you can smell the food but can't touch the silverware...."

...I feel overworked, undervalued, and underpaid...

Repeat after me:

You are a human resource! And your humanity takes a far, far distant second-place to your mere use as a resource.

...its not that i mind being told what to do as much as the way im being told how to do it....

That's what called a so-called authority figure confusing his/her authority with "superiority." It's the bane of working. I've accepted it's a genetic flaw among humans that when you give them anything resembling a title or even the smallest bit of authority, they suddenly believe they're God. You can try to get use to it. Better yet, stand up to them and tell 'em to get over themselves!

so i tend to take longer to do my assigned tasks so that way i make sure there at least being done right- but apparently im not efficient enough

Yeah, and these are the same cretins who will swear to God that quality is more important than quality. They lie. Almost every word out of the mouths of people in corporate America are lies. Put it to the test: Start working really, really fast and get it all done, but with tons and tons of mistakes. Then watch her rant about THAT as well. You won't, can't, and never will please peoplel like her simply because she sold her soul to the devil a very long time ago.....

I don't think I'm cut out for this work because i'd like to think that i deserve better.

Oh, no. You're listening to that "still small voice" that's telling you there really IS more to life than commerce and consumerism. Next thing you know, they'll be telling you that you don't "play well with others." Make certain you look under your bed each night because I've become convinced there's a "they" out there sticking pods under our beds in the determined effort to make us all a bunch of mindless and emotionless automatons who accept that our sole purpose in life is to serve, to obey, to make stuff, to buy stuff....

At the same time i don't wanna be a quitter especially knowing the time and money it will cost them to train someone new and get them prepared for their very busiest time in the fall....

Oh, to hell with them! That's their problem!

and im not in a financial position currently to be able to take the time to start looking for another job-I am stuck in a rut and don't know what to do- i have a meeting with the assistant director coming up this week and I don't know if i should voice my concerns...

Of course you should speak up! Silence will simply be taken as agreement that you're in "Leave it to Beaver" land and everything is just "swell."

...the majority of the people I work with are very educated(masters-Phd's)

Yeah, but still lacking the heart necessary to live their lives based on their own terms. Education must never, ever be equated with intelligence, heart, or character.

and i really don't wanna burn bridges with them or if i were to leave have everyone talking about it-word spreads quickly in that office!

Right. You've seen what they are REALLY like. So burn those damned bridges as soon as you can. Yes, they WILL be talking about you, but you know what they'll be saying? "Man, there's someone who won't take their crap!"

...i feel the longer i stay the more im losing a sense of who i am

I told you: They want your very soul. Vampires they are, sucking out your very life a little bit each day until finally you're thoroughly institutionalized, convinced that the "American Dream" is alive and well.

should i just suck it up and try harder or cut my losses now?

Bide your time if you can but at all costs, do run away as quickly as possible.

Know this, however: It's not "better" anywhere else you go. The names and faces change but the stupid game continues. At least, however, you can hope it will be more tolerable elsewhere.

You really will be fine throughout all this. Just remember, again, that THEY see and value you ONLY as a "resource." All you're wanting to do is place your HUMANITY first. You're to be applauded and admired for that. But do not let THEM use that humanity against you! That's what makes them all a bunch of evil bastards!

Nothing but the best.

Raya74 · Posted: Sat Jun 23, 2007 7:10 pm Post subject:

Your absolutely right Randy- Thank You for opening up my eyes and helping me to see the ugly reality of it all- i am being used- they may value me as a commodity but not from a humanity standpoint - most of them can't even muster up the words to say "goodmorning-how are you doing today?"--just walking by me like i'm not even there!!! They may be educated but that DOES NOT equate intelligence, heart, or character- I'm gonna remember that one Randy because it's very true....instead of lifting me up and building my confidence they try to bring me down and break my confidence so that way i'll stay with them longer ....this has become a question of humanity..it has become a question of whether or not i am willing to let them grab hold of my spirit and my soul and just crush it...but i can't allow that to happen.....I have to believe that i do deserve better...i want to believe that....but it is really hard sometimes

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