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Raya74 · Posted: Sat Aug 25, 2007 4:58 am Post subject: NO MOTIVATION....

So here's the deal-since being let go from my job a few weeks ago i've really had no motivation to find another job or even consider going back to school. When most 22 year olds are excited about their lives and their futures and have all these great plans i just feel like i have nothing....except feelings of sadness, hopelessness, frustration, confusion, anger, resentment, and sometimes depression....not to mention a mounting student loan....i used to be the person to try and bring others up when their feeling down and try to help them to think more positively and see the light at the end of the tunnel but for some reason when it comes to myself i can't do that..... i just feel stuck and alone and scared and i hate to admit this but i feel like a failure and i can't open up to anybody about this because im scared people will judge me and see me in a different light-as the person that i really am and not the person that i just try to be.....i never thought i would turn to a forum like this to express my truest thoughts and feelings but if there is someone out there who can relate to how im feeling or went through what im going through maybe they can offer me some much needed advice to help me get out of this rut that im in:(((( thank you.

sweet_life · Expert Joined: 20 Sep 2006 Posts: 184 Career Advice: +0/-1

It is better to share your thought than to carry them with your forever.....these sort of feelings make a heavy burden to such a young person. Listen....motivation stands inside every and each of us. It only takes the right thing to trigger it. With me, it's awareness which triggers my motivation and also my determination. What do you want to do with your life? Just pass through it or take action and make the most of it? I don't really know what piece of advice I can give you to motivate yourself. Just get more active in other fields like family life, friends and social life and then you'll see you'll get motivated to start a job search or even go back to studies.

Here are some really valuable suggestions:

http://www.cvtips.com/motivation_job_search.html

Randy · Posted: Sat Aug 25, 2007 3:30 pm Post subject: Re: NO MOTIVATION....

quote="Raya74"

...except feelings of sadness, hopelessness, frustration, confusion, anger, resentment, and sometimes depression...

Welcome to wide, wonderful world of employment and working for a living. In my experience, unless you're willing to rip your own heart of your chest and throw it on the floor and stomp on it until you die, you'll never find "fulfillment" in a job, career, whatever.

The only antidote I know if is a big dose of good ol' fashioned anger and indignation at how greed has pretty well screwed up things beyond repair. Then you can show anger to the greedy goobers who play this mindless and heartless game and tons of compassion for the overwhelming majority caught up in it, but who'd much prefer to have nothing to do with it. Other than that, "they" win and you'll spend your time feeling just as you do now.

We offer our time and our labor and I'll be damned if they don't want our souls as well.

lexa10881 · Posted: Sat Aug 25, 2007 8:46 pm Post subject:

What you are going thru might have nothing to do with your job but might simply be your quarter life crisis at work. I did some crazy stuff and felt the same way about 23 [and I still have the tattoo to prove that I lost my mind--my arm is on fire?! Looks great with business dress]....it is not hard to get in a rut and then feel the way that you are feeling now. Don't look at yourself negatively for feeling as you do; try to explore why you are feeling that way, deal with it, and then move to the next area of your life, even if it is a complete opposite to what you have known and where you are. Who would have thought that I would be anything like this three years later? I was engaged to a guy in a metal band, pierced and tattooed to the hilt, and drank way too much....now I dress conservatively and prefer a quiet evening with a movie to a night with the band all messed up and drunk. And the only constant I have had the whole time is my family. And I don't know how, but my job....???? ...they must have been desperate for help, Laughing

The only thing I can tell you is that eventually this feeling does end, things do come together, and even if it seems chaotic now, when you look back you will know that whatever you are fighting thru right now made you a better person. Keep in mind that we are the sum of our experiences, be those both good and bad. You are going thru these things for a reason. And you will be okay.

Raya74 · Posted: Sat Aug 25, 2007 9:29 pm Post subject:

Thank you to those who replied to my post the very next day.....you all made some good points and helped me to see through this haze that im in a little more clearly....lexa i appreciate you reminding me that this difficult period in my life will pass and things will eventually get better( i hope) but one thing i can't stand is uncertainty and feeling as though i don't have control over myself and my life....which is where im at now...i know i need to take accountability for everything that happens in my life including the way that im feeling and take action to change things and make things better but its just so hard when you feel all alone with nobody to depend on for anything really.... i feel resentful to my parents because instead of them trying to support me i feel like im the one that needs to be supporting them(financially and otherwise) and i just feel like i don't know what i want....i always thought growing up i wanted to have a career before getting married and having kids but sometimes i think it would be easier to not try and have a career and just find a husband who can take care of me....WHY IS LIFE MADE UP OF SOOOOOOO MANY DECISIONS!?!?! and for some their answers are right in front of them and for others they must search so hard to find them......

starlight · Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2007 3:31 pm Post subject: I know how you feel!!!

Raya, I know how you feel.
I worked at a job that had everything to offer then sudden everything changed. I felt that I felt that I failed . I had no confidence in whatever I did. After months of feeling depressed, I decide that these people shouldn't decide who I am. Then I realize that this is my life and yes decision were made but you need to learn from them. At the end of the day, you need check yourself and nobody else. I am now focus and ready to take on whatever challenges that may come. REINVENT THY SELF!!

I hope this helps. Cheer up!

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