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I love working as an Admin however recently I started this job 6 mos ago.
I thought this was a great opportunity for me to learn and grow.
The first 3 months is a period of getting familiar with your surrounding and build a structure. Maybe I was ready to work but my two bosses really didn't know how to handle it. My days was pretty boring since I came from a very busy environment. I handle very small projects and I mean small. I checked in with my supervisor everyday and they said that I don't need to. So I accomodate it. However, when it came for PTO(vacation) or sick day, like if my daughter was sick, I have to stay home. When it came down to my review time, they based it on my time away from the office and they said if my children are sick that I would need to make other arrangement. In the beginning before I accepted this job. I told them that I have children and if this is problem please let me know and they said they would be no problem they would be flexilbe.
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So basically, I didn't get a raise based on the time out of the office and I feel that my confidence is sinking fast here. And to top it off, they said if I stay here for a year, I will probably get my raise. I thought review are supposed to be encouraging. This is a sign they want me to leave. I don't know what to do. Now, I come everyday just to put up with it. I am not that type of person. I am very outgoing and I just feel this job is sucking the life out of me mentally.
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lexa10881 · Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2007 3:53 am Post subject:

i don't know...this job sounds like it is not the best thing for you all around. The fact that they were aware you had a child and then they are using the times you had to take care of your kid is unfair. If you are unhappy, then I suggest you get out. And if so, get your resume in order and start looking. Only let them know when you are ready to leave, they do not need to know you are searching.

If you want to try to ask for a raise, I would wait a while and then try. I think you earned it, I don't know why they are being unfair to you. This has to do with getting a raise; hopefully everything works out for you.

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safri · Expert Joined: 20 Sep 2006 Posts: 213 Career Advice: +1/-1

Frm what you have mentioned in your post, The best thing to do is get out of there and find something which suits you indeed. It is clear to me you are not hppy from more than one point of view. If you have talked to them and you have told them you have a baby and, wewr it necessary to stay at home for one or two days with them, and they have agreed with this, now, it's like they don't keep their initial agreement. Besides, you've pointed out some things which are important for you and you don't have them in there, like professional satisfaction, a competitive atmosphere, peace or mind and so on and so on.

Katja144 · Expert Joined: 22 Aug 2005 Posts: 176 Career Advice: +2/-0

Out of curiosity, how often are your children sick and causing you to miss work? There's obviously some reason they're concerned about it...

Randy

You work for jerks, plain and simple.

After what's happened, do you really believe them when they said if I stay here for a year, I will probably get my raise.?

No. First, it's "Gee, we're sorry. But your children are interfering with your work, BUT if you stay another year...."

And when THAT year is over, it'll be, "Gee, we're sorry but business has been really slow this past year...."

And after THAT year is over, it'll be "Gee, we're sorry, but....."

I thought review are supposed to be encouraging. This is a sign they want me to leave.

Yep. That's what they want!

I don't know what to do.

Yes, you do. You come everyday just to put up with it so you can get a paycheck until you find something else!

I am not that type of person.

No, you're not. And neither am I. I'm just old and damned tired of their games! And if you stay, you're right:

this job is sucking the life out of me mentally.

STOP trying to "please" them! Get this straight, okay?

You are NOT working for "people," but rather a "person," a legal fiction called a "corporation" that exists ONLY on paper! It's a sociopath in every sense of the word! Stop letting them use your humanity against you! They've proven they don't give one damn about you or your family. So, do unto THEM as they have done to you. I.E., keep it PURE business! You're there to get a paycheck, nothing more, nothing less. They don't have to "like" you and you damned sure don't have to "like" them.

You can sell them your time and energy, but they want your very soul, right? That's how you feel, right? Well, don't give it to them!

Do your job, get your paycheck, and go home. Don't give them the luxury of you worrying about this crap. And when it's time to move on, do so and never, ever look back!

starlight · Posted: Fri May 04, 2007 3:16 pm Post subject: Words of wisdom - Randy

Randy, thank you for putting my sanity at ease. I thought that I was the only one reading between the lines.
That is exactly what I am doing. I am NOT here to be your friend but to get the work done and go home.
My focus is my family. If my boss doesn't like it tough!!!

I agree that the promises will be broken or I will be thrown under the bus many times. I have never worked with supervisors who are insensivity but hey there is always a first time.

I am looking for something else better for me.
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Randy · Posted: Fri May 04, 2007 4:55 pm Post subject: Re: Words of wisdom - Randy

quote="starlight"

Randy, thank you for putting my sanity at ease.

You're most welcome indeed. I'd always wanted to believe it was just the rednecks around here who were a bunch of cretins. It's sad to think it's pretty much the same everywhere.

The good news is that I'm glad to see so many other people who are angry and fed-up with employers' crap! Very Happy

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