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turlochmcgivney · Newbie Joined: 29 Apr 2006 Posts: 1 Career Advice: +0/-0

This is the first time I have used this forum so hopefully I post this qusetion correctly: I am in the UK and it's important I give you the background for you to understand my difficult situation.

I started a new job a few months ago in a global software company and have been getting on brilliantly. There was quite a bit to learn and my manager assigned a mentor to me for two months to help me come up to speed with the administrative part of my job.
The girl who was my mentor is quite posh and seems well liked by the rest of our colleagues. We hit it off great and she was impressed with my ability to pick things up quickly and I started to really integrate with the rest of my colleagues quickly.
It was my mentors birthday recently and she invited quite a few of my colleagues and myself out to a bar- about 20 people in total.
It was a great night and we ended up going to a live funk band afterwards.

When I was getting a taxi home my mentor asked if I would share a cab with her friend (sally) as she was going my direction, I said sure - I had met sally briefly during the night and we had a brief chat.
We said good bye to the group & I said goodbye to my mentor and wished her a happy birthday and said I'd see her in work on the Monday.
Along the way I asked the cab if he would pick up my friend (tim) and his new girlfriend as they were finding it difficult to get a lift home, I asked sally if this was ok and she was fine with this.

When my friend Tim and his girlfriend (julie) got in the cab I started chatting away to them, Julie - who I had only met once before in a bar 2 weeks ago told me that she found my Credit Card in her purse the other day, I couldnt believe it as the last time I met her I must have left it on the bar and she must have picked it up and forgot to give it back to me.

I had cancelled the card the next day and ordered a new one.
We had a bit of a laugh about this in the taxi and that s all that was said about it. - we dropped of my mentors friend said good bye - and continued off in the cab home.

On monday at work my mentor who is friends with Sally sent me an instant message by mistake - she meant to send it to someone else that I work with.

This is the exact message that she sent (please note that I have changed the names).

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My Mentor: Sally was doing impression of (myself) and his friends when in cab everything was "yeah man" like i know man - his friends are quite common.

My Mentor: one of the girls had his credit card and forgot to tell him and he got it cancelled that was probablyl from using up coke.
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When I recieved it I was very very upset, not because she called my friends common, but because she was insinualting that I do drugs to( i'm guessing) another colleague of mine. I have never done drugs in my life and would never do drugs, I am into healthy living and keeping fit - as well as that my friends are no where near common they are very respectable hard working people.

I think thet my mentor is being very too faced and what she has said in that message she sent to me by mistake is very hurtful.

I had a brief chat to her about it and told her I am very disappointed and upset, she didnt really apologise to me over it - she said that she had sent it by mistake and that I was not meant to get it. She was such a bitch about it that I am thinking of reporting her to HR as I know whe sent it to one of my colleagues who I dont know very well.

Sorry about this very longwinded story but I dont know what to do and its going to make working with this girl very difficult for me.

Can someone please help?

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