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Defending Yourself At Work

Arguments happen in any relationship, and work relationships are no exception. The difficulties of a work related argument is that the problem must be solved and cannot be ignored. Defending yourself at work can be accomplished once you know the source and nature of the problem. The methods chosen to defend yourself can either hurt or help your reputation. Some basic steps concerning work related problems and how to defend yourself:

1. Identify the true nature of the problem. What are you being accused of, and are you really at fault?

2. Get the facts: gather any documents or items pertaining to the issue at hand.

3. Consider the argument from another person's point of view. This will help you understand how you need to defend yourself.

4. Designate a time of mutual agreement to discuss the issue. Make sure the time and place is acceptable to both parties.



Whenever the time comes to have the discussion, being prepared can mean everything to defending yourself. If it is a technical argument that can have rammifications to your employment, then having documentation with you that defends you is imperative. If it is a disagreement with a colleague, such a formal approach is not going to be necessary every time. During the discussion, whatever its level of seriousness, there are basic behaviors to engage in and ones to refrain from. This can make the difference from hurting yourself in the work environment (and possibly even being fired!) to coming out with a smile on your face and respect from others. Behavior checks when defending yourself at work:

1. Don't get loud. Try to keep voice as even and emotionless as possible. No one listens to shouting.

2. Attacks and personal criticisms are not appropriate, even if someone is doing those things to you. Be an adult.

3. At the end of the dispute, forgive. It is hard to forgive immediately, but keeping a rift going instead of settling it makes the work environment tense.

4. Apologize, even if it isn't your fault. And accept apologies gracefully.


Attitude is everything, in small or large office disputes. Ultimately the way something comes out tends to be misinterpreted, so maintaining composure and watching the content of what is said is very important. If nothing else, ask for a few minutes to compose yourself before the discussion happens if it is to take place immediately after an incident. Keeping a cool head can mean defending yourself well or mean the opposite: looking for a new job.


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