| Author |
Message |
CareerRookie
Junior Member
Joined: 23 Oct 2006
Posts: 28
Career Advice: +0/-0
|
 Posted: Sat Nov 11, 2006 3:07 pm Post subject: What about this environment? |
 |
|
| Has anyone ever had a mean boss at a great company? I'm honestly thinking of quitting my job because the boss' meanness is seriously affecting my health. Recently, I asked to take a couple of vacation days and my boss yelled at me. While I'm use to this treatment from my family, I do not like it from my boss. The company has given me stock options that I'd lose because I haven't been here for 4 years. I also like the overall environment of the company. People are also impressed whenever I tell them where I work. However, I don't like the meanness and verbal abuse that I receive from my manager. My boss also sides with those who are paid less. My boss also says outrageout things and makes outrageous accusations just to get things done. I've gained weight and my blood pressure has gone up because of this. I told my boss my health problems and the work has eased off but I could get 20K more from other companies. I know that I could make 20k more at another job but there are people at this job who have been there longer and me and survived. I am supporting my family, a house and 2 cars so I don't know if I just need to suck it up and deal with it here or start looking for another job. While I do like the stability and prestige that I have now, I hate the favoritism and my boss' behavior. What would you do if you were in my shoes? |
|
| Back to top |
|
 |
|
|
Ciprian13
Expert
Joined: 25 Oct 2006
Posts: 240
Career Advice: +0/-0
|
| Posted: Sat Nov 11, 2006 5:50 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| If I were in you place I'll continue working there because I have a family a house and 2 cars that I have to mantain.Don't mind him do your work and he will not have anything to reproach you.Unless you know that you'll find a new job fast, a better paid one with a quite boss that doesn't shouts at you and stress you everyday. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Robin
Senior Member
Joined: 16 Oct 2006
Posts: 75
Career Advice: +0/-0
Location: Alice Springs, Northern Territory
|
| Posted: Sat Nov 11, 2006 6:01 pm Post subject: Communication is Good Place to Start |
|
|
Have your tried talking to your boss to tell him/her that you don't come to work to be spoken to like a school child? Often it helps to tackle the problem at the source.
Tell him/her how you feel and how it affects your job. Does your firm have a performance management program? If so, during the interviews that go with that would be the right place and time to raise the issue.
Finally, if you can't get results by talking with your boss, go to your bosses boss and advise him/her of what is happening. If it's not eliminated by then, move on to another firm that appreciates you. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
CareerCookie
New User
Joined: 14 Nov 2006
Posts: 6
Career Advice: +0/-0
|
| Posted: Tue Nov 14, 2006 8:07 pm Post subject: Tips on Coping in a Hostile Work Environment |
|
|
Dear CareerRookie
Your tolearance and endurace level for this abuse will determine if you stay or go. But the main question you need to ask yourself is if your physical and mental well being are worth the pretige of having this job.
Here's an excerpt from an article I've written on coping with a hostile work environment.
- Keep in mind why you are at the job.
Why are you working at that particular company? Whatever the reason, let the objective you want to achieve give you the motivation to survive each day.
- Focus on your own responses.
As difficult as the situation may be, learn to control how you respond to it. Try to cope internally. Prayer can be effective in “getting yourself together” and keeping your composure. Try not to personalize the tirades
- Carefully choose who you associate with.
Learn what not to say and who not to trust in future. Avoid discussing your private life while at work (with others and on private phone conversations). This reduces your being a target for gossip.
- Find another opportunity.
If the situation doesn’t improve to your satisfaction, and you have exhausted all options, look out for yourself and leave.
Best wishes
CareerCookie |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Darren99
Newbie
Joined: 04 Dec 2006
Posts: 3
Career Advice: +0/-0
|
| Posted: Tue Dec 05, 2006 8:49 pm Post subject: |
|
|
If you can get 20K more in another job then get another job for certain.
If you can save money now then you will be able to retire years earlier and enjoy better health.
Prestige is hot air - of no use to anybody. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
brasco
New User
Joined: 06 Dec 2006
Posts: 14
Career Advice: +0/-0
Location: colorado
|
| Posted: Fri Dec 08, 2006 6:40 am Post subject: Re: Communication is Good Place to Start |
|
|
| Robin wrote: | Have your tried talking to your boss to tell him/her that you don't come to work to be spoken to like a school child? Often it helps to tackle the problem at the source.
Tell him/her how you feel and how it affects your job. Does your firm have a performance management program? If so, during the interviews that go with that would be the right place and time to raise the issue.
Finally, if you can't get results by talking with your boss, go to your bosses boss and advise him/her of what is happening. If it's not eliminated by then, move on to another firm that appreciates you. |
well said indeed.you should never be treated like a child or talked down at like that.it is demeaning and should be against the company's policies.that is a hard call,where you love the job and the supervisor is an overgrown child/bully. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Ciprian13
Expert
Joined: 25 Oct 2006
Posts: 240
Career Advice: +0/-0
|
| Posted: Sun Dec 10, 2006 3:38 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| These things happen all the time because they are more qualified than you and they believe they can treat in what ever method they want to.Some of them treat you like a child others treat you like trash,few treat you like they supposed to do a part of the team but you must surpass these tests to make your own way in life. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
Register
Log in
FAQ
Search
Memberlist
Usergroups
Profile
Log in to check your private messages
