Gay ? Coming out at work

Even if your immediate employer knows your GLBT (Gay Lesbian Bisexual Transsexual) status following your interview or from details you submitted on your CV, this information is unlikely to have been shared with the people you will be working with.

Ask a supervisor, human resources or a trusted co-worker if you have any concerns about how colleagues may react to your GLBT status and how you should be coming out at work.

During your first days in a new job, you should concentrate on establishing your credibility and ability to do the job rather than coming out at work. People do like to talk about themselves at work; you can avoid talking about yourself and coming out at work, by merely focusing on them and giving them the chance to discuss their favourite subject i.e. themselves! But should the question of your relationship status arise you could reply that you have a 'partner' or that you are dating but not in a committed relationship.

As time passes and you become more familiar with people you can drop your partners 'name' into conversations as a clear clue that your partner is the same sex, although not in all cases, take the name Charlie for example. Coming out at work need not be the big 'reveal'.

Photos of your partner on your desk would also be another subtle clue.You could try the direct approach and just state when asked about your partner, that you are GLBT. Generally when the interest in the new person subsides and the 'cat is out of the bag' people swiftly move on to something and someone else. So you won't be the topic of conversation and curiosity for long even if you might be at the beginning. All new employees though will experience some of this 'interest' in the initial days on a new job. You coming out at work will soon be yesterdays news.

Try to always focus on being professional in your job and a good colleague and that is how people will relate to you.