The importance of being patient

The actual job hunting is the primary source of aggravation on an ongoing basis. To achieve a good level of patience, you need to develop a view of what's really practical. You can only do what you can with what you have. What's available defines what you can achieve. You don't expect to win the lottery every day, so don't expect every day on the job hunt to be a big win. The internal stresses are based on expectations, not reality. The solution is patience, and lots of it.

The actual stresses are a compound of situations, but they come out externally in the various forms of frustration involved in job seeking. Effectively, you create more stresses for yourself, and don't achieve much, either.

External sources of irritation

Many job seekers feel that they're being poked with a stick on a regular basis by outside sources, even those trying to help. Job hunting is a very personal experience, and this can be interpreted as deep, intolerable intrusion.

The problem is that most of the time this view of outside sources is actually wrong. Other people can't easily penetrate the stress levels, particularly when they're not allowed in. They're usually doing what they think is right, not trying to annoy you. Patience can correct a lot of misconceptions, and reduce stress, when you engage with instead of rejecting these sources.

Unemployment issues

Crises sometimes happen, and naturally, they create stress. The last thing any unemployed person needs is to have to worry about things like their unemployment insurance or other important issues like that.

Patience is essential to deal with these crises. You need to be able to think straight, and disappearing into a burst of frustration isn't going to do that. The need is to work with people to solve the problem. Only patience can do that. It's tough, yes, but it's also essential.

Patience isn't just a buzzword. It's a survival strategy, and a way of taking time to deal with problems and keep things in perspective.