Working Single mom

Being a single mom can be very lonely. After a full day with the children or housework, you may find yourself alone in the evening with no one to share your high and lows of the day. No one to share getting up in the night when your child wakes with a temperature, no one to go on holiday with and no one to share financial/parental responsibility. It can be tough and most single mums do a fantastic job under the circumstances. You may have decided the time is right to go back to work and feel that the adult stimulation you will get from that work environment is as important as the financial rewards.

But

Is it worth it?

Being a single mom, you will need to weigh up the pros and cons of going back to work when you have no significant other to help you share the responsibilities of raising your family.

These considerations may include:

  1. How to manage school runs/holidays and periods of sickness.
  2. Who do you name as your emergency contact if the school cannot get hold of you?
  3. Are your children having enough quality time with you?
  4. What financial assistance will you lose by returning to work?
  1. If you are friends with a local mum whose child goes to the same school as yours find out if they want to share school run duties. You could even ask the teacher if a car share scheme operates at the school and of course a school bus would be a bonus!
  2. This can be a tricky one especially if you are new to the area and have no family living locally. You may have friends/family who you can ask to be your emergency contact or a trustworthy neighbor. It is always a good idea if you are on your own to network as much as possible as there will be times when those people can help you and most often they'd be glad to do so too.
  3. As a single mom, spending time with your children and making sure they do not feel like they are missing out by not having their father around can be a big priority for you. Hiring a childcare professional may therefore not be an option. Weigh up how much time you feel is acceptable to spend away working and discuss it with your children. Find a healthy balance that works for you all.
  4. You may feel that the benefits of returning to work, such as raising your self esteem, confidence and meeting new people is more important that a few pennies lost in financial aid. Take advice on what hours you can work without this aid being affected and what extra help you may get for doing more hours. Different countries have different schemes to help support mums back to work and some none at all. Look at all your options and then make a decision based on what your priorities are.

Good luck!