Losing a job is a substantial loss in life, and the emotions that accompany it should be allowed to be expressed like they would be during any other form of loss. While losing a job is not quite the same as the death of a friend or the unraveling of a romantic relationship, the emotions and experience is not too different. With any significant life change that is the 'end' of something, there are mixed emotions that may accompany it. This loss needs to be dealt with in a healthy way as any other significant life loss would be.

Once you can express your true emotions, this allows for the healing process to truly begin and for you to get on with more important activities. Like going back to school or finding a new job. Once you have gotten past the emotional part, which you are well entitled to, you can go on to bigger pursuits and will be more focused.

Just because you lost your job does not mean that you do not have desirable traits that another employer is seeking. Realise your true capabilities, and what valuable skills you possess that may set you apart from other job seekers. If you can focus on positive attributes and abilities, this will keep your self-esteem high, which indirectly affects how you portray yourself during the job search process. Learn important interview skills and use them. If you can remain focused on the positive, this helps you portray a better self image to prospective employers and makes you a more desirable candidate for the position they are trying to fill. Just because something in the past didn't work out, does not mean that you will have a deja-vu experience in the future with another employer. Not all employers are the same, so allowing yourself to begin to trust again is important too.

There are things about getting a new job that are important to consider. One problem is that many people try to find a job exactly like their old job, and it does not work out for them. You may have to accept a job that is not quite the same or that you may not like as well, just to pay the bills and get by. There's nothing wrong with doing so, and no job has to be a permanent choice. If you take a job that is not your first choice but continue to search for a more desirable job, then that is not a bad decision but a smart one. While you are searching for a job, don't let the fact that you are unemployed make you depressed. Lots of good people who do nothing wrong lose their job at some point to circumstances beyond their control. Consider it a change that fate felt you needed in your life, evaluate what matters most, and keep on moving. Finding a hobby or doing something you have always wanted to do, or even something as simple as developing a regular exercise program, can help keep you motivated and feeling good despite job loss. Consider this to be a change for th better and maybe a sign that fate thinks you need a push in a different direction and deserve something better for yourself.